The Chemistry of Healthy Family - Estrangement

21 October 2012
I went to ICA church at PTC to hear the sermon. The Pastor, named John (If Im not mistaken), was preaching about healthy family.

He opened the sermon by reading Psalm 127:1 which says:
"Unless the Lord builds a house, the work of the builders is wasted"

Here are the summary of the sermon, which I think everybody that involves in any sort of relationship in the world should hear since it is a very constructive sermon. He begin by giving us a lists of indicators for us to think about.

Estrangement from dictionary means the feeling of separation either resulted from hostility or feeling alienated from other people.
This happens to relationships when some conflicts happened and people started to avoid each other. When you hear things like: " Our relationship has changed, it wasn't like it used to be.." is one of the alarm that estrangement might have intrude the relationship.

Potential cause of estrangement:
- Unresolved conflict
- Dislike feeling resulted from unexpected behavior of the other party (might involve judging and perception)
- One of the party hiding stuff / reluctant to opens up
- Lack of honesty
- etc.

Potential Solution:
a. Specifically define the issue
b. Brainstorm the solution
c. Agree on a potential solution and try it
d. Reward each other for progress

When estrangement happened, put on your best attitude forward, be honest and willing to change yourselves when needed. Don't try to protect your pride, ego, or to hide.. Have a positive mental attitude.

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The Chemistry of a Healthy Family - Chronic Anger